By Holley Kelley, M.S., C.P.G. FT
This month’s Blog begins as most of them do…me, in a last minute scramble—pondering the month’s topic. My plate is full. I am in a dire search of a cloning machine and there is never enough of me to go around—a situation shared by many of you I presume. But I do desire to honor the love of writing and lose myself, if only for a few minutes each month, in the joy of my fingers clicking the keyboard while allowing my mind to creatively have freedom to wander in its cognitive playground of literary production without boundaries. This is my place.
My monthly blog is as much about sharing a message as it is about ensuring I stay tethered to my roots and don’t stray too far away from the essence of what brings me purpose and joy—but more importantly—where this journey started. It is so easy to get lost in the daily demands of life.
July’s blog is about July because I often write about the month itself. I don’t know if that means I lack creativity or if I’m seeking a challenge to get more creative about what is obvious. Either way, my goal is always the same—to find a way to engagingly share a message that peaks your curiosity, elevates your thoughts, and inspires your soul—and at a very minimum, entertain you for a moment.
Actually, if I was set to this same task of writing a July blog prior to 46 B.C. it wouldn’t be possible. July means Julius Caesar month. July was added to the year in 46 B.C. when the Roman Senate, in honor of the Roman General, Julius Caesar named the month after him, also in recognition of the month of his birth. Formerly, what is now known as July was called Quintilis. We have never known life without July. We get so used to how things always have been, we forget that they may have once been different.
As I think about July, I consider the things I love about it. I just enjoyed visiting family in Florida and celebrating my mother’s 74th Birthday. We rented a 17-passenger limousine and surprised my mom with dinner reservations at her favorite restaurant. It was a fantastic evening and the limousine driver must have thought we’d lost our minds when the entire ride home we jammed out to singing all the songs to Broadway’s Jersey Boys. I’ll never forget that night. My mom told me she wanted something special for her 75th Birthday. But I just kept thinking about “What if 75 never came?” and “What makes 75 more special than 74?” So I felt like we should make her feel like the rock star she is for her 74th. And her 75th. And her 100th …if we are so blessed.
But just like Quintilis turning into July, life as we know it is constantly changing. As humans, we are adaptable creatures. But that doesn’t mean we are agreeable. Familiar becomes unfamiliar. Sometimes in the blink of an eye. Often without our consent or permission change comes knocking at our door. It is so important that we learn to value and treasure each and every moment and enjoy the journey….value the happy, seek the goodness.
We are not in control of a lot of things, but we are in control of how to make this month matter, these days, this moment. There will be tragedy for some. There will be celebrations. Weddings, funerals, births, vacations, good news, bad news…remember—we are adaptable even if we’re not always agreeable. Much like back in 46 B.C. when the Roman Senate changed Quintilis to July, I imagine some people were celebrating and others were rebelling at the change. Did it change the fact that my mom was still born in the seventh month of the year? Some conflicts aren’t worthy of our time.
While we may not be the most agreeable species, we can choose not to be troubled by life’s inconsequential events. Alleviating that emotional weight definitely frees our spirit and puts us in the beautiful light of living fuller today, making us better for ourselves and those we hold dear.
There’s troubling news and information around us everywhere today, and many of us internalize what we’re receiving and allow it to overshadow and even confiscate the beautiful life moments in front of us. So when I say were adaptable, that includes resourceful. To truly live your best life now, be your own advocate as well as you advocate for those you love. Position yourself strategically to receive the abundance around you. Set boundaries for yourself and be sure you are shielding yourself from distressing sources that are toxic to your mind, body, and spirit.
It’s still July. Summer is in full swing. Take in the sun. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Save your energy for what truly matters. Make every moment count. Be good to yourself. Love your people. Face change creatively. Adapt. Live amazing! Life’s short! Before you know it, we’ll be looking back on this blog and it will be Once Upon a July!