By Holley Kelley
"Time is really the only capital that any human being has, and the only thing he can't afford to lose.
As I sit here with my fingers on the keyboard I’m thinking about the concept of TIME. A human concept. However, a physical progression nonetheless. Time. We can’t escape it. Can we? We are captured by it. Or contained by it. Or imprisoned by it. Do we keep it? Or does it keep us?
When born, we are born either timely or untimely. When we begin to progress as an infant our adaptation skills are measured by what is appropriate for those within the same age—chronological time or benchmarks. Later we begin school within specific calendar times, age guidelines, and actual clock time.
Everything is time. There’s parties and events. There’s bedtime. Dinnertime. Work time. Play time. Arrival times. Departure times. Start times. End times. Crunch time. Show time. There’s a clock set on just about everything. And we mark our calendars and sync our watches to be on schedule. And we compare ourselves along the life course too—asking ourselves, “Are we where we should be?” in our teens, twenties, thirties. And even later in life, we wonder “Is it TIME for our bodies to begin to decline?”
We wait for time—watch time—waste time—serve time—and acquiesce to time—ALL OF THE TIME. And then it’s gone.
I was thinking about where it goes. It vanishes into nothingness, but remains as shadows in our minds and dances life-like in our memories. The recollections of which we hold full cognitive copyright ownership, as each person’s experience of time is as unique as their fingerprint. So with that, time is a continual and perpetual orchestration of vanishing historical events, disappearing and evaporating millisecond after millisecond as quickly as they are choreographed. And with that, new time is born, rejuvenating and perpetuating what we call the "present moment."
As I so cherish, I have been enjoying time this summer with family. I consider myself fortunate but I also design my schedule so I create the opportunity to do so. Because I know I won’t get this time back. My kids will only grow older. I have one child already off at college so it was great visiting him. And taking the younger child on a wonderful vacation of a lifetime with her best friends—a time I believe will be remembered forever—was fantastic. I’m continually watching them grow. Change. Our relationships are evolving in great new directions as I say farewell to older versions of their youth when they needed me in special ways and relied on me for different reasons. I reflect on how times have changed, yet I’m so proud of how they have grown so brilliant, grounded and independent. I rapidly cycle through years of memories like a mental filing cabinet storing them neat and organized, and I ask myself, "Where has the time gone so swiftly?".
This is my interpretation of time—and how I want to spend it. Especially because you don’t get time back. So for me, time is only presently forward. That explains the saying, “Remember the time...” because it is only in one’s memory. It is officially—GONE. I want you to think about the concept that time is only FORWARD. This minute. And the next one. In fact I’ve lost the time while I was typing “This minute” above. It’s already gone.
BE in your present. LIVE in your NOW. TIME is only presently forward. Yesterday is awesome to think about. To remember. To cherish and hold dear. To even love and honor. Or maybe it wasn’t. Either way, it’s gone. The reality you live in is this very moment as you read the next word after this one. This is the present moment. Your life is awesome in the here and now. What you have today is such an awesome gift--To Intensely Marvel Experiences.
So go out there and live life forward. Look back fondly. Love your memories. But seize your future like you have a set of high performance solid rocket boosters fueling you forward! It’s definitely TIME.